Considering homeschooling?


How would you feel about an individualized learning program for your child, one that can change at a moment’s notice?  Do you think your child might experience less stress and anxiety?  Are you engaged in regular battles with the school or the school division?  Worried about bullying?  Do you notice that your child works better in the morning than the afternoon, or vice versa?

If these questions resonate with you, then perhaps you are ready to explore whether homeschooling is an option.

The first thing to realize is that home schooling isn’t just an educational choice, it’s a lifestyle choice.  Your home is the classroom. So is your backyard, your kitchen, and the park down the street. In fact, the whole city becomes your classroom. 

Sound exciting?

So where do you start?  Research and Network…….

  • Do you have a friend who homeschools their special needs child?  A friend who know a friend?  The more opinions you have, the better equipped you will be.
  • Find the FB groups for homeschooling parents with special needs children. You gain an immediate community of like-minded parents.
  • The web is a great place for information for homeschoolers.

Vicky Parnell ( is a mother and RDI consultant who opted for a form of education called Distributed Learning. Her children have passed through the system now, but she remains very involved with DL:

The most important thing for families of autistic children to know is that if you choose a DL, it can mean access to thousands of dollars of additional funding for autism intervention.  This is because in a bricks-and-mortar public school, special needs funding is absorbed into the school’s budget to provide resource teachers, SEAs, and other specialized staff, and to buy materials for special needs students. Many DLs, however, pass along the responsibility of providing additional support to the student with autism to the individual families; 

Holly Bortfeld is a mother two children, one with Aspergers and the other with moderate autism, and has been home schooling them for years. 

This is what Holly finds positive about homeschooling:

  • It’s special time you get to spend with your child watching and helping them grow and learn.
  • You will KNOW s/he is getting what they need, when they need it.
  • You know they are safe.
  • You know they are consuming the right foods and quantities.
  • It will teach you more than you will ever teach your child.

But Holly offers these cautions. Being fed up isn’t enough.  It will be YOUR responsibility to create a positive learning and socialization environment. For example, can you answer these questions:

  • What does my child need to learn now?
  • What does my child need to learn next?
  • How do I present/teach it?
  • How do I evaluate the effectiveness of the program?

If you can’t answer them, you still have work to do before making the decision.

Good Luck!


Helpful links:


Distributed Learning:

Autism Funding Unit: help with tutors


Homeschooling General:

Homeschool FB groups:


No doubt there are more links to home school groups. 

If you know of one, please let us know, and we'll add them:







If you have been through this before, you’ll know that your child’s reaction to going back to school will fall between these two poles:

  • Your little one will be happy, excited and so ready to get back to school. They may miss their friends, or the structure that school brings to their lives…..


  • None of the above.  Summer has been a time of freedom, few demands, and for this group, a return to school may create anxiety and even anger.


 Start the planning the weekend before:

  • Use a calendar or planner to visually show your child the first day, and then mark off each day.  No surprises will reduce the stress and anxiety. 
  • Ask if there’s anything that he/she wants to do/accomplish before school starts.
  • Start the bed time routine for school days.  It might be even be a good idea to implement this the week before.  Adequate sleep is a crucial factor in reducing anxiety.  

The day before:

  • Try to make this day as relaxed as possible….no last-minute rushing around, if possible.
  • Does your child have any anxieties about returning to school?  Remind them that they’ve done this before, and they can do it again.  First day jitters are normal. 
  • No surprises.  See if you can get a timetable for day 1 and go over it with your child. 
  • Make a list of all the things that may be worrying your child or questions they will have about the upcoming year.  Discuss them with you child and bring a copy to give to the teacher or TA.  This will show your child that have allies in the classroom.
  • Plan a little special together activity for after school….a café, ice cream, a trip to the park.  This will show that you know this might be a difficult day, and you want to acknowledge that.

The morning of:

  • Give yourself plenty of time to get ready. Don’t be surprised if meltdowns occur as anxiety will be at its highest point. Remain calm and logical. But don’t beat yourself up if it doesn’t go as planned.
  • Try a preferred breakfast.
  • If your child needs time to relax between wake up and getting going, try a bit a bit of TV or YouTube, or a game as long as it is close-ended.
  • Ask the school about transition item, a favorite toy or gift received during the holidays. The excitement of showing the item to friends and teaches may help to relieve the first day anxiety.






The summer break is now officially half over and In a few short weeks school, the trek to school will begin. 

This is the first of three articles about school and your special needs child.  The two other articles will be on our website shortly:

  • Returning to school after the summer holidays
  • Homeschooling

In this article  let’s look at how to prepare your child for going to school (or preschool) for the very first time.


Entering school is a major event, no doubt about it.  An adjustment, a cause for excitement, and also the potential for anxiety for the student, the entire family.

But there are things than can smooth the transition. Here’s a few:

  • TALK, READ, CHAT:  Honest and open conversation about the first day is really helpful.  Lay out the entire day….when to wake up, the route you will take, what will happen during the day, end of day pick up.  Find books about the first day of school and read them together.  This is a time to be very supportive and positive.
  • SHOP TOGETHER: It can be a lot of fun to get that new lunchbox, backpack, or a new outfit or two.  Put your purchases aside and use only when school starts. That will make them super special.
  • PLAN AND TRY HEALTHY SNACKS AND LUNCHES: Very important for everyone, and particularly if your child is a picky eater. Is your child used to a hot lunch?  If you want to take warm items during the colder months, will your child have help with things like soups.  Planning ahead can avoid snack and lunch time disappointments….and melt downs.
  • THE SCHOOL SLEEP SCHEDULE: Ideally your child should get 9 to 10 hours of sleep every night. Figure out what time you want to get up for school and work backwards.  Start an hour before that to turn off screens and get into calming routines. But do it gradually if you can.  The sleep routine may be the single most important task we have for getting ready for school! 
  • PLAN, PLAN, AND THEN PLAN SOME MORE. Organization is the key to a successful transition.  Lay out clothes the night before.  Maybe make some casseroles for quick and easy dinners that first week. Think about pick up plans if your child is having a really bad day.

Before school commences and early on, the more time you can spend in your child’s new school, with their teacher and special needs aides, the easier will be the transition. School can be very rewarding, offering great educational and socializing opportunities. 

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By working with us, you can instruct the Branch to pay Perfect Day directly.  

You won't have to pay and wait for reimbursement.  We'll do the waiting for you.

In order for us to get started, we need a copy of the approval letter from the Branch as well as a copy of the form that was filled out by your Behavioural Consultant or other recognized health care professional.  It's called a Justification for Equipment/Supplies (also known as the JFE) , and you can find a blank copy of it here.

Once we get those two documents, we in turn fill out a form called the Request To Pay (or RTP), and then attach our quote.  We send the form and quote back to you via email. All you have to do is sign and date the form, and send it in to the Branch.  If you wish, you can send it back to us and we'll get it to the Branch, whatever you find easier.

Once  we receive approval of our quote, we deliver the order to you. And that's it!

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